After reuniting with my grandmother in Hong Kong in 2001, I, as the only grandson, sometimes accompanied my grandmother to attend events, and one of them was a big family reunion of my grandmother at an elementary school owned by my grandmother's family.

Unpleasant grandma's big family reunion

Usually, this family gathering is attended by three generations of the elder brother, grandmother, and grandmother's family. My grandmother's older brother's family has several grandchildren, so we are also sometimes used as a comparison.

My cousins in Hong Kong were all graduates from abroad and at that time had high incomes. They sometimes deliberately ask these questions in front of other family members, because they know I am only taking local lectures and that my position at the company I work for is just an ordinary position.

Grandmother's family likes to laugh at siblings who are married to a partner who is not highly educated or from a wealthy background

I also sometimes accompanied my grandmother to the weddings of other brothers. If there are relatives who are married to a couple with a modest background or not highly educated, then they often laugh at the wedding. One example is when one of my cousins married a daughter from a very devout fishing and religious family; my cousin's mother was so angry that she did not want to be a witness in the signing of her son's marriage certificate. Other brothers also laughed at the face of the bride, whom they thought was not beautiful. I felt very sorry for my cousins because they had to keep smiling despite the very unpleasant conversations between the brothers.

The story of a friend of his grandparents who lived inside the school for decades

Although many of my brothers in Hong Kong were not kind-hearted, my grandmother's father was very different in character and liked to help others. Previously, my grandmother's father helped a former Chinese soldier who was disabled because his right leg had to be amputated while fighting with Japanese soldiers during the Second World War in Mainland China. We called this man Wong's uncle, and he was the resident of a small house in the elementary school complex belonging to my grandmother's family that I had told you about.

My grandmother's father felt sorry for this soldier, so he built a small house in the school complex for him to live in and, at the same time, made him a school guard. When I was in elementary school in my grandmother's family, I used to play in the small house because Uncle Wong was very kind to me and used to buy me food. Uncle Wong also kept a black dog, and he also took on the role of keeping the school safe at night.

After I met my grandmother and went back to the elementary school, it turned out that Wong's uncle had passed away a few years earlier and the little house had become a warehouse by then.

We chose not to attend all the Hong Kong brothers after my grandmother passed away

After my grandmother died, we chose not to attend events held by our grandparents and grandparents, because we didn't want to spend time with brothers whose hearts were unkind and hypocritical.

Some of the brothers in Hong Kong, when they found out I was working for a large company, tried to contact me back; some had the reason that I wanted to help get their children into the company I worked for, but I didn't want to ignore them anymore.

Until recently, we have only been in contact with my aunt in London and her daughter, who was born and raised there, because they also don't like the hypocrisy of our brothers in Hong Kong.

In the next article, I will tell you the first time I tried my own business but failed.